I don’t have a partner, but I would hope that any partner who lives with me will know to give me the space for my routine. I’m not above separate rooms if necessary—I love how Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton “live apart together” in side by side townhouses, or how Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera lived in separate houses connected by a drawstring bridge.
My partner and I are exact opposites when it comes to most things in life, and our morning routines are no exception. She snoozes at least six times, using a silent vibration so as not to wake me. She sleeps for 1-2 hours after I wake up, checking in on me in the studio after she’s had a shower.
I have a girlfriend that I’ve been with for a very long time. Helen is her name, and she’s amazing. We keep to our own spaces in the morning to match our own objectives. For example, Helen was meditating this morning while I was writing, and so we make an effort to not distract each other. It’s just a part of what we do.
She lies in bed asleep while all this happens. Occasionally she’ll ask for a coffee.
My wife is absolutely amazing. She herds the kids in the morning because she knows I’m trying to do what’s best for our family through work and what we provide there. She’s so absolutely incredible for that.
I wake up hours before my husband does, so I have a lot of peace and quiet in which to do my routine.
I like to call my partner my “weekend boyfriend,” because he’s a consultant and travels to the East Coast Monday-Friday. It’s amazing. I can watch Great British Baking Show without judgement and he can’t steal the covers if he’s not there. I can also blast my weird music and not feel bad about waking anyone up.
We have choreographed our morning routines pretty well. She’s in charge of the kids while I’m out exercising, then I take them over when I return.
My husband is awesome and encourages me to go get some exercise, and we both pitch in to get the family ready for the day.
My partner is either up and out of bed before me or still laying in the sheets like my favorite cat. My morning routine doesn’t take very long, and she knows that I’m a less stressed out Aubrey Marcus when I complete it so she is thrilled when she sees my naked butt in the pool.
My wife is a rockstar. She totally handles the mornings with our three school-age kids. She gets them up, makes them a home-cooked breakfast, studies scriptures with them, and gets them to school in good spirits. It is amazing. I’ll often get back from the gym as they are saying a family prayer before school and I’m always impressed by the routine she has created for our kids.
Every day I have 4:00-7:00pm blocked off as family time to spend with my kids. This includes some free time, dinner, homework, and their sports.
My wife and I are typically on separate routines and allow each other space. However, we do enjoy the times when our schedules align and we can share a yoga and meditation practice or a hike. We’re thankful to live in an area with nature surrounding us.
My husband generally wakes up earlier than I do to meditate and exercise. I’m usually getting out of bed and showering by the time he gets back. We do a pretty good job of timing it right. Even though our morning routines have changed over the years, we’ve gotten really good at sharing a bathroom. We’ve done it successfully now for nearly ten years!
We wake up at the same time. She usually gets ready for her day while I’m reading the paper and triaging email, and then we have breakfast together. We rarely if ever get in each other’s way.
We get up at the same time every day, since the alarm rings for both of us, and he has a pretty similar morning routine where he also works out for ten minutes. Then he showers, then I shower, and then he makes breakfast while I get the kids.
I like greeting him first thing in the morning. Sometimes I ask him to help me wake up and he talks to me. I often make him mint tea as well, and then we read together.
My wife and family are prioritized elements in my current morning routine.
Our morning routine is together. Other than alternating workout days, we wake up at the same time, have coffee together, get our boys ready together, and get ready to leave the house together. It’s definitely a team effort to get everything going for the day.
My husband tends to get up about half an hour after me. We only have one child still at home, and she is fairly autonomous.
Our children are growing up. We have a son who is away at college and a daughter who is a junior in high school. Because she now has her driver’s license, she gets up and drives herself to early morning seminary (religious class) at 6:00am before heading over to the high school. Some days my husband gets up and exercises before heading over to the university where he teaches. Some days, but not all, we quickly check in with each other around 6:00am before our daughter leaves. We might have a quick breakfast or morning family prayer before they head off, and then I head back up to my office.
My wife and I wake up at the same time, take a thirty-minute walk, and make tea together. After that, we start our independent workdays.
My wife and I are both writers. She tends to be a night owl. I’m obviously an early bird. We structure our lives to support each other’s creative endeavors in many ways, so she’s always been generous about giving me as much space and time as she can in a life that is hectic and somewhat cramped.
That said, she can get upset if I make too much noise in the morning (“ruckus,” she humorously calls it). Likewise, I can get a little peeved when she wakes me up at night after she’s done with her work. These are just small inconveniences, though. I can’t imagine being with someone who didn’t support my creative endeavors and vice versa.
Now that we’re living together, our routines are very much intertwined. He always makes breakfast, which is so nice because that’s the sort of thing I’d likely blow off or have “on the go” if he didn’t.
We generally brush our teeth together, but the rest of our getting ready (once breakfast is done) is pretty separate; we each have the time we need to handle whatever it is we need to do alone. I generally have the more particular timeline in the morning, since he often works from home, and he’s awesome about pitching in to make sure I’m all set to go when I need to. We’re also great about reminding each other of things. “Did you take your vitamin?” “Don’t forget it’s going to rain later!” “I tossed your charger in your bag for you!” It’s a real team effort, and when I’m waking up on the road, I definitely miss having my breakfast buddy.
My wife Gia is typically sound asleep while I go about my morning routine. When I leave the bedroom, I always walk around the bed and give her a kiss on the head. Sometimes she wakes up, sometimes not. Sometimes there’s a little semi-conscious “Are you going? Ride safe.” But that’s about it. We’ve been together for over forty years and have never really shared the morning.
There’s part of me that feels like I wouldn’t be able to have my morning hours the way I do now if she were involved. Mornings when Gia has to be awake for something often upset my routine; suddenly, my time to myself (meaning me and my friends on the bike or me and Bear in the park) gets off track. As they are, I’m not disappointed that I don’t share my morning hours with her. But I don’t want that to sound wrong—if she wanted to get up and do these things with me, that would be thrilling. But that’s just not the way our relationship has ever been. I knew going in that she wasn’t the morning person I was. I would always need to go to bed early because I had to get up, she’d have to stay up late because she had to work, I’d wake up and she’d be going to sleep because she had stayed up late. We’ve just never been on the same biological time clock like that. And somehow it’s worked for us all these years!
My husband Theo is a huge part of my morning and my day, since he’s the COO of my company. He usually accompanies me on my hike, which is a great way for us to spend quality time together outside of the office. He’s been part of this company from the very beginning, so he’s very aware of how I work. He knows when I need space to get things done and when I want to talk things through with him.
My wife is usually resting peacefully, so there are no issues with sharing the space!
My girlfriend usually wakes before I do and holds onto me in bed, sometimes for hours, trying not to wake me up. Since she goes to bed well before I do, that’s her only chance to cuddle.
Sometimes she gets up to play with the kids so I can sleep, but usually I get up so she can have the time to herself, even if she just stays in bed to answer email or read the news on her phone. We work together, but most days we work independently in the morning, because she knows I like to have a few hours to wake up before facing the day. When we get really busy, she prods me to get to work earlier.
My partner is probably the only reason I haven’t succumbed to my laziest morning tendencies. He loves mornings, so he actually helps me form routines rather than hinder them. For example, he goes for a run after he wakes up, and that’s roughly the amount of time it takes for me to shower and get dressed. When he comes back, we’re both ready for breakfast and sometimes we travel to the studio together after that. He is also the one to drag me out of bed on the weekends when I’m hungover, for better or worse.
My husband is not really a morning person, but he always lets me do my thing. His work schedule varies weekly. Six months ago, I’d wake him at 7:30am. We’d look at memes for about twenty minutes. Then I’d return to drag him out of bed at 9:30am. Recently, he’s been copying my schedule. Imitation is flattery, I guess?
I usually make enough noise that she wakes up. Then it’s like a cartoon version of life. She goes one direction, I go the other, and we meet in the kitchen.
My family members typically get out of bed at 7:30am or later, so I have two and a half hours to do my thing.
My husband is not a morning person, so he doesn’t interfere with my morning routine at all as he’s usually still sleeping. He understands my rituals are very important to my well being.
I don’t have a serious girlfriend right now, but when I’ve had them, they pick up on how set my routine is and give me space. Some start burpees or some equivalent, too, and we make it a fun, shared habit.
My husband is a later riser than I am. He wakes up for prayer, but eight times out of ten he goes back to sleep for another hour or two, and then wakes up sloooooowly.
My partner and I have very different work schedules, and he is usually up at 6:30am and out of the house by 8:00am. Our schedules don’t really collide until the evening, which works out for both of us.
Before my wife and I had our son, the routine was less challenging. But now, in addition to taking care of myself and spending time with my spouse, we make our son’s needs a priority. My wife Dijana is really great and supportive of me and my professional goals. She really rocks!
I usually bark out orders and micromanage my husband in the morning. That’s why we start with the hug. It’s all downhill from there.
My husband usually gets up before me or around the same time, also on his own with no alarm. When he gets up, he takes quiet time for himself - catching up on news around the world, reading, etc. Usually, the first time we chat with each other is around the time our daughter wakes up.
My partner is so considerate and we are so compatible that I have all the space I need in the morning; however, she is a part of all that I do in the morning too. She drinks coffee while I drink water. We both walk the dogs and talk about the day, or about a vacation we would like to take, or we just chitchat.
My husband, Vivek, is an amazing partner. He helps me get the kids ready for school in the morning - it is nice to have some family time - though I must admit it usually feels a bit rushed in the morning regardless.
She is great about her morning routine too, and feels energized when she gets it in, so I usually wake her up when I come back from my walk so she can start her day.
My wife and I have breakfast together; it’s a habit we picked up after an extended trip to Europe one summer. We do our very best to have both breakfast and dinner together at our dining room table, no matter how hectic our lives are. It’s grounding and just incredibly nice in the middle of our fast-paced New York City lives.
My wife has her morning routine as well, which is different than mine (Zumba classes at a local recreation center).
I definitely have my own space, unless she sleeps in, which happens regularly when she and I have been up the night before watching a recorded Dateline or 48 Hours, our favorite TV shows. Although the stories are always the same (guy meets the love of his life, marries her, takes out a large life insurance policy on her, she ends up dead, and you find out he’s been having an affair the entire time), it’s riveting television worth staying up for. I highly recommend it.
My husband is up and out before me, so during the week we don’t really share a morning routine. On weekends, however, we both sleep in a little later; cuddle up and relax after waking; have coffee together; and talk, read the newspaper, go for a walk, and plan what we need to do and what we like to do together, and with whichever kids are around.
She usually sleeps longer than I do. One of my favorite sensations is that of her sleeping while I make my morning cup and tend to my email. Something about that feels incredibly tender and protective, as archaic as that sounds. Fortunately, she has really high EQ, so she knows that I need to begin my mornings as I do and gives me plenty of space. But she always checks in on me to welcome the day, which is such a sweet gesture.
My wife of thirty-six years gets up before me and follows her own routine. Having separate bathrooms helps and is key to a great marriage, along with having your spouse as your best friend and the person who will understand you no matter what you say or do.
My husband is out the door to catch the train around the time I wake up, so I often wake up to him saying goodbye.
When he crawls in bed with me, I know whether we’re going to have sex or not if he takes his clothes off. If we do, that’s always a mood enhancer, as my husband is a stud. But other than that, nothing changes.
My partner and I both live and work from home in our studio apartment—it has taught us to become relationship black-belts in coordinating routines, sharing space, and communication! Thankfully we both thrive on the same morning wind-up: reading, tea, meditating, journaling, and then digging into work.
I love having someone to chat with and share ideas throughout the day, and we have found creative ways to share a tiny space (for example, taking calls or doing podcast interviews from the walk-in closet). We do still navigate one major difference: he’s a big-time night owl and I’m a tried-and-true morning person. Somehow, though, we’ve found a way to co-exist! We’re always experimenting with different solutions and sleep times … and when necessary, ear plugs.
My lovely wife is the opposite of me - she likes spontaneity. But she knows that I’m a morning person and I like my routine. After forty-eight years of marriage, some things are sacrosanct.
It’s important to us to make time for each other every morning (when we’re both home, since we travel a lot for work), even if it’s just a few minutes of skin time where we do nothing else but appreciate our time together.
We really enjoy meditating together in the morning; even though there aren’t any specific interactions, it builds a deeper layer of intimacy between us. My partner is a tech entrepreneur, so he gets my life and my hectic schedule. We’ve learned to make it all work and to make time for each other in the process. It’s a juggling act, but all couples have to find a balance that works for them.
My husband, Logan, supports my morning routine. He enjoys going to bed later and rising later in the morning. We try and give one another space and quiet time in the mornings and evenings.
My husband’s an early riser, so he helped me become a morning person! He has his own morning routine, so we give each other space to do our routines and start our days on the right foot.
My partner is exactly that - my partner. We divide and conquer with the chores to get it all done.
My wife wakes up about an hour after me, so we have plenty of quiet time apart. We are on the same wavelength, and when I sit in the living room to read, she joins me when she gets up, reading a book of her own.
My boyfriend Ben tends to sleep through my morning routine until the kids get up, which I appreciate - it is good to have quiet time in the morning.
We do pretty well in the mornings. She is way better with the baby’s morning routine than I am and has it down to a science. But there are times when we both say screw everything, throw a coat on Myles, and go for a nice morning walk instead.
Sometimes my wife keeps sleeping after I’ve woken up, and she is up by the time I am back from the gym. We work together so we spend plenty of time together.
My wife’s wakeup time has influenced my wakeup time. She goes to the gym first thing in the morning and doesn’t get home until after 6:00am, so the first hour or so of my morning she isn’t around. After she gets home, we talk for about ten or fifteen minutes. Then, since we both place a premium on our own morning routines, it is mutually understood that she will go do her thing and I will do mine. That said, it did take us five or six years of marriage to arrive at this happy consensus.
My boyfriend is absolutely phenomenal with this. He is an athlete himself, so it is a no-brainer for us to do our own things in the morning regarding workouts.
And there is more accountability for us to push each other to sleep in and take recovery mornings.
I’ve designed my morning routine to work with and around my wife’s schedule. We respect each other’s needs for routine (our kids have routines as well) and rarely do we have anything that disrupts them. We’re lucky that way, I suppose!